As we all know or most of you I would think, the brain is the center of all our emotions and thoughts. These day’s sex and relationships have become extremely complicated because many are not able to utilize emotional intelligence when it comes to their relationship. We enter into relationships with sex as the attachment vs true real emotions.
Our brain is the operating center for a complex network of neurotransmitters and neuroendocrine systems—nerves, hormones and other chemicals that are responsible for sexual desire and response. Our brain transmits signals that start a cascade of reactions leading to arousal and mood awareness. It all start between your eyebrows not between your legs.
For women and sex, it’s how you feel about yourselves, your lives, your partners and your relationships that will translate to sex. But for you men, thinking about sex translates to erection and they think let’s go lovemaking begins.
The most potent chemical involved in the matter of love is oxytocin, the bonding hormone that’s stimulated to secrete from your brain when you bond with someone. It’s the neurotransmitters dopamine and serotonin, is the feel-good chemical, so when you are attracted to another person, or when you are in a relationship, and when you touch a person, the oxytocin flushes through your system. And you feel good. It’s why sex feels so great. (well at least, one of the reasons why sex feels so good), and it’s why love feels good.
Ultimately bonding and being in a relationship that continually have sex will stimulate the release of oxytocin. Studies have shown oxytocin’s role in various behaviors, including orgasm, social recognition, pair bonding, anxiety, and maternal behaviors.
Why is this so important? Studies indicated those couples with the highest oxytocin levels are the ones with the highest rates of longevity to also be healthier and to be happier. This happiness level (the bonding level, in essence) stems from how many times you have sex or whether you know how to experiment in the bedroom. In other words, you need to keep your sex life fresh and highly stimulated to keep the oxytocin flowing.
Find lasting ways to make your partner feel good, feel wanted, feel satisfied. When you do that, your daily, weekly, yearly, and lifelong returns will turn into life long sexual jackpot.
Some ideas:
- Give your spouse at least one compliment every day, and mean it.
- Kiss on the cheek. Often.
- Plan a date – be spontaneous
- Wash the dishes together. Sounds unromantic, but it gives you some quality talk time.
- Read the same book together and then talk about it, as long as you’re reading at a similar pace. Intellectual stimulation leads to other kinds.
- Take a ten-minute walk together every day
- Work on the novelty outside the bedroom.
- Share a fantasy or two.
- Keep it fresh.
- Have confidence. And fun.
- And finally, remember it takes two.
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