Letting Go
Breakups are never an easy experience for one to endure, especially of those you perceived that would stand the test of time and last forever. It can truly be a solemn, depressive and inert period that affects most of us who hold our emotions true to our hearts.
Whether the breakup was on mutual terms or infidelity, it can leave us feeling inconsolable and for some it feels like the end of the world. It is vital to cope and find the strength to let go.
Let’s get back to feeling like it’s the end of the world. I understand when you vision being with that particular person, marrying them, loving them forever and then; BAM ! – Something happens or red flags had been popping up, but we wish they didn’t and ignored them. Then reality sets in, it feels like it’s the end of the world, an avalanche of emotions tumble upon us, we feel like crying, loneliness suddenly occupies our souls and uncertainty about the future. Most of all we ask ourselves, can we live without that person? You sure can, you existed before they came into your life and you sure can after they are gone.
In the initial stage of a break up I think it’s important to allow your feelings to flow, at the same time be in CONTROL, or else one can go into depression. Talking about it with love ones can be comforting, reminding yourself of the reason for the break up and why you guys parted may help ease the pain. Sometimes conversations/contact with that person may actually catalyze more hurt.
I say END all ties with the person, at least until you heal and can have a conversation without ulterior motives. Alright some of you might be thinking how can I END it when I am trying to get over that person?. I may want to check the person’s social sites to see what they are up to etc. Well my friend, why put yourself through the agony? Do you want to dwell and suffer yourself or heal fast and get a hold of your life and build your future?
It may seem like your world is shattered and nothing can put the pieces together, the only answer in your head might be getting back with the person. Again you broke up for a reason, and if it’s a good enough one; then work on letting go. Grab a journal write your feelings down, talk about the person and why you had to let each other go. State his/her advantages/disadvantages. Go out with loved ones, read, educate yourself about break ups and know that you are not the only one that has experienced it.
Be aware that the future is in your hands and it can be better if you do what’s needed to make it better. If it means letting go of the person, grieving, picking up yourself and having the courage and will power to move on.