As you guys may know by now, most of my blogs are sparked by stories from friends and family. One after noon I was chatting with a high school friend who resides in Trinidad. I had just gotten home and sat down on the sofa and as I looked at her message I saw “I am looking at porn”. I was taken aback that she was comfortable enough to open up to me (haven’t seen each other on years) she continued to share that she felt the need to spice it up in the bedroom, and perceives herself to be “lame” in the bedroom. I said to myself, if she is feeling this way, I am sure others are to. So here I am determined to write another blog that will someway help someone
Confidence in the Bedroom –
We might possess confidence elsewhere but for some, when it comes to stripping down and opening up our bodies to another it can be quite challenging personally.
· First and foremost, believe and act like you are confidant and LOVE your body. Stand in front of the mirror and highlight what you love about your body. Smile; know that the man you make love to loves you for more than just sexual intercourse. He loves you so much that cellulite, belly fat or whatever else might be bothering you, he will look pass that and love you for all your “flaws” Remember ACT confident – As this will exude
· Once you are in the bedroom, bring out that sex kitten in you. If you bring that shyness in, it can cause a mental block which can ruin any fun moment. Think about this, if you block out something your entire body shuts down right? Go in with an open mind
· Married? Wear sexy lingerie to bed. If it’s not comfy for you, there’s always silk pjs. Nevertheless, for sure some nights, rub some oil, spray some perfume, not sure about you but SHAVE, and surprise your man, be willing to do what he wants without having to say no.
· We all come in different shapes and sizes but unfortunately social media these days and the different ads can be in your face. This can make a person feel less happy about themselves, but in the real world sexy comes in all different dress sizes including Yours. Don’t compare your body to a porn star or a model, instead be confident and work towards achieving the size you desire at a realistic approach
· Feel the need to have a wild night? I think it’s ok to dim the lights if your intentions are really naughty and require some karma-sutra poses. I think dimming the light might make you feel more comfortable in stretching and trying new things without worrying about how you may look from a certain angle
· I do it, I ask for what I want, even in the heat of the moment and it turns me on even more when he says yes.
· Watching porn can teach us a thing or two
· Don’t be hard on yourself, it will show and as much as our man will comfort or console us, overly worrying and complaining about the way you look can turn someone off.
Been together for a while? Try new things and go all in, and don’t forget to portray those dreamy sex roles.
Love who you are, appreciate your body.